Hi
Both my parents recently died. My father on Christmas Day and my mother on 17th January.
I have no Aunts or Uncles , cousins etc. Both my parents were only children. I have one sister ( younger) who is joint executor with her husband.
It has been my sisters life’s work to exclude me from my family, aided and abetted by my mother, who doted on my sister.
Fortunately my father was kinder and more inclined to accept me as being an actual part of the family so rightly or wrongly I persevered with staying in contact and as they grew older assisting them as much as possible and visiting once a week etc, bearing in mind I lived over 50 miles away and my sister on 12 miles.
Anyway during and after their deaths of which thanks to my sister I was completely excluded, I have heard nothing from anybody. I have learned through local friends that my sister and husband have cleared the house and it’s up for sale. There has been no communication to inform me whether or not any part of my family have been mentioned in any capacity on the will and I presume any evidence of me, my husband or children in terms of photos, keepsakes etc have binned or destroyed.
In short I have nothing to remind me of either parent or indeed my existence of being a part of their family. That hurts, even at the age of 62.
Am I being really stupid or super sensitive to expect that whatever the outcome I should be informed by someone at sometime?
My sister certainly won’t communicate with me. She never has. So how will I know?
I do not expect to have been left anything really, not if my sister and mother could help it, but I would like to know if I was even mentioned in the will just as evidence that I actually did exist as a family member, beneficiary or not. At least it might give a reason why they may have excluded me etc. It all very sad really.