House sale after split

[Twinkletoes85]

I apologise that this is similar to other threads. My ex and I split last year, not married and no kids. We own the house together, I offered to buy him out be he refused and we were discussing the sale in December then he just disappeared. In the meantime I have started a new job role as I had issues with my former employer and was deeply u happy.

He has now reappeared saying he’s putting the house on the market and he expects me to move our should it sell. I’ve already told him I’ll be looking to buy so he will have to accept I’ll potentially be in a chain but now with my new job and probation I will be unable to get a mortgage until August and as I have a cat (and again probation) renting is very difficult. Can he force me out before August?

My feeling is I have every right to be here until I am in a position to leave. Any advice appreciated

It's March. August is only 6 months away. He couldn't get it through court quicker than that, and in all likelihood you can easily see the sale taking that long anyway. Start looking for somewhere to buy and get your mortgage application in as soon as you're able. You can insist on the property being marketed at the upper end of the estate agent's suggested range.

Why did he say no to you buying his share? Would seem to be the most simplistic solution.

From a purely practical perspective, if you can’t even apply for a mortgage until August then you’ll not be in a position to buy until October at the very earliest.

In your position, I’d seriously reconsider renting. That’s what I did, and I had three cats! The relief to be moving on and not at loggerheads with my ex was worth every penny.

Presumably OP can’t buy out her XP yet as she can’t get a mortgage. And he wants to move on sooner than the Autumn, which is actually fair enough.

He said my offer was too low (I got 3 valuations and offered him half the equity based on the top end) and didn’t take into account the mental anguish he felt from moving.

I’m perfectly happy to move and have tried to move the sale forward on numerous occasions before now but he’s not committed or helped. He has a flurry of activity them tails off and disappears before it goes up for sale.

I’m not against renting but I don’t think I’ll be able to rent as a new tenant whilst im on probation either.

I kept living in the house as I can comfortably afford to pay for it alone and as he works part time he can’t.

I’m happy to move on and leave as soon as I’m possibly able I just want to make sure he can’t start forcing me out before I’ve completed on a new house.

Also financially a mortgage is not a problem for me it is just the probation at work that is the issue

So he’s just being a controlling cock? In that case, I’d double check with a lawyer but basically ignore him. “I’m moving as fast as I can” on repeat.

ChaChaChaCh4nges - ha essentially yes, he is not pleased that I have a new partner (he also has a new partner and is engaged) and wants everything to happen at his pace when he feels like it. I put off changing my circumstances for a long time to make sure I was in a position to move without any issues but it became increasingly difficult to stay in the job I was in and as I hadn't heard from him for so long I took an opportunity that presented itself.

God do not give in to this man.

Does his partner know you have offered him half? Tell her via social media

It would takes months and lots of cash to take you to court

QuiteLikely5 - I imagine she does but that ship has sailed now, it was the easiest option at the time but now selling up is better.

I don't think I'm being unreasonable saying happy to sell but I can't get a mortgage till August but I will be out asap after that.