I am very upset so please be kind. I divorced ExH 2 years ago. As part of the divorce, I bought him out of the house, but had to accept a charge of £5k, to be paid either when I sell the house or when our youngest child turns 18 (nowhere near that). This was signed off in a court order.
The fixed-term mortgage has come to an end but I can’t get a new fixed-term mortgage because ExH is refusing to sign a deed of postponement (required document saying that he accepts he isn’t getting the £5k now and the charge will be transferred to the new title deed with the new mortgage provider on it). He sent me an email this morning saying that he wants the £5k now (not an option, I simply don’t have it), or he will only sign the deed of postponement on the condition that I agree on writing to be ‘more reasonable’ about his contact with the DC.
His version of ‘more reasonable’ is that he is allowed to renege on any arrangements he has agreed to re. contact, at any time, and must be allowed contact at any other time he chooses. Any variation on me doing exactly what he says is, according to him, unreasonable. For the record, he has the children every other weekend and has set phone times twice a week. He used to have more contact but that has dried up, at his own request.
I know this isn’t AIBU, but AIBU to:
- think this is blackmail;
- instruct my solicitor to ask the court to enforce their order;
- tell him to fuck right off.