Letter to my son upon my death, don't know where to start.

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I'd love to hear from everyone about the content of their letters to children on the event of your death.
Basically I'm just sorting out putting a will in place and the solicitor has suggested I do an advice letter to my young son god forbid anything should happen to me.
The thought of writting the letter just makes me want to cry but I know it needs to be done and obviously very personal etc.
Any advice as to content? What sort of thing have you put in your letter???

I don't disagree about paying and making basic arrangements, like you say, it'll take the pressure of at an already stressful upsetting time. I just find it too much when on threads posters go on about the minutiae of detail. And believe it is an ego thing. We all have ego there's just different degrees of it.
Sorry for you loss LyndaSnellsFeet. The love never leaves. The time we have with our loved ones never seems enough though, part of grief is accepting that. Even if a letter were left. I don't know your circumstances, so please forgive me if I've spoken out of turn. Best wishes.

I found that uncomfortable viewing too OP. Although I stuck with it, Gerard Butler and all

My mum died when I was 7 so I sadly have almost no memories of her.

When I was pregnant it was an issue because of asking about antecedent medical conditions. And I dreamt about her for the first time in decades.

It would have been lovely to have had more factual information as well as something more tangible (written) than my very vague and limited memories. Unfortunately the younger your kids are when you die the less they will remember.

I had no idea this was a thing

Like a PP I'm not sure I agree with leaving very prescriptive instructions about how DC are to be raised and lead their lives. It is for those left behind to do the best they can and I'm not sure having the deceased's opinion on everything is necessarily helpful.

Oh that's not what I do. The letters I write to my son are just memories of our times together. The funny little things he has tantrums over, the things he says, days out we have. So if something happens to me he still knows these things.

That sounds lovely LyndaSnellsFeet

Like a pp I set up an email address for my DD when she was 7 months old. I email her every so often with memories, things we’ve been doing, new things she is doing etc.

I tell her how much I love her etc. There is one about if I die. No direct instructions left, just that I want her to be happy no matter what that might mean.

Yes it’s a comfort to me knowing that there is a way I can still be with her even after I’ve died. Or for her to know when she is going through her teenage angst years just how much I love her.