Living in a house thats not mine

[Guest1987]

Trying to keep this short:

When i met my now husband 13 years ago he lived in a house that his mum and dad bought for him, it's in their name. He lived rent free. And always has.

We got married, had 2 kids, but the arrangement has always been the same. No rent, no nothing. That sounds pretty awesome to some, but to me I hate the utterly lack of protection I have. At one point in our marriage was infidelity on his part and it made me realise how little security I had. We've worked on our marriage pretty hard since, to be fair on both sides. But since that incident I've woken up to knowing nothing is forever.

I'm not sure where to go from here? Although living in a house rent free is wonderful and we can invest money into our family and children (which is really MIL and FILs reason to all this, and I appreciate that) I have told my husband I am no longer happy feeling this way, but surely I need to protect myself somehow?

Any advice? To put up and shut up is such a risk in my eyes.

You didn't? It was the second response on the thread. You rudely ignored it.

you don't see the irony in claiming that independence was all you ever wanted when you have been taking advantage of a total lack of independence for TEN years?

Fair enough I take that back but I didn’t ignore it, sorry I didn’t realise I had to dedicate a responce to every poster individually.
I see where you are coming from but rather than drip feed i’ll just move on

@moose that was what I was thinking. Stuck between a rock and a hard place. The responses have given me more to mull over though