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Need advice plz violent ex trying take my son off me!

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Sammilou1969 · 04/02/2018 18:07

Hi cut long story short my 11 year old son went his dads gone over week now we had bit of an argument which ive said sorry and my son has. But my ex says i can have him 2 days a week. My son as always lived with me gone his dads frid to sunday never been a problem. But my ex sayin wants my child benefit which its not bout the money but i want my son bk. My ex dont live near his school either so i have to pick him up or goes on his bike but its a right distance! Ive asked my son he said wants come mine and his dads. Ive tried to compromise he wont have it 😣

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CheapSausagesAndSpam · 04/02/2018 18:24

Is the contact court ordered?

If not....get your son for his "two days" then get legal advice asap. Tell school he is NOT to leave with his Dad.

Lovemusic33 · 04/02/2018 18:28

I don’t understand, so you pick your son up from his and take him to school? Do you collect him from school? If so why don’t you just take him back to yours?

You need to sort out a court order but in the mean time I would suggest bringing your son home if that’s where he wants to be?

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Sammilou1969 · 04/02/2018 22:36

Problem ive got my lad wants to see his dad too and is all his dad at the minute. Hes wants to be with both of us. Thats how its always been but his dads being an arseole 😠 and is pushing for a move because in a 1 bed flat so if my son was with me couldnt move just a bloody mess
But im making apptment with solicitor tmz get this crap sorted

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Sammilou1969 · 04/02/2018 22:37

Thank you for your advice 😊

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Lonecatwithkitten · 04/02/2018 22:53

At 11 years old your son's opinion will carry a reasonable amount of weight in court. That is worth considering.

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Sammilou1969 · 04/02/2018 23:48

I know thats whats worrying me his dads totally brainwashed him against me 😭 thanks for replying

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Myddognearlyatethedeliveryman · 04/02/2018 23:50

At 11 your ds wishes and feelings will be heard but if the words he spouts are his df's they will know that too.

CheapSausagesAndSpam · 04/02/2018 23:52

A woman I know has actually been alienated from her children by her abusive ex.

Be very careful OP. Keep ALL texts and anything he writes to you and keep a diary of dates and what he has said and done.

RedHelenB · 05/02/2018 04:53

Schools cannot stop parents with parental responsibility from taking their children unless there is a court order to say so

RedHelenB · 05/02/2018 04:55

I would have him the two days and not mention where he wants to live or who with. Just parent as normal and Kirsten to him if he does open up. Reassure him you are there for him whatever happens.

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