Biggest contact order case ever. Physical and emotional abuse to both DC and I. I never supported contact, the children never wanted to attend and I continued to report ongoing abuse, to the extent that change of residence and/or care proceedings were threatened should we return to court again after the final order was made.
Four years later, with court hearings every couple of months, and we have a final order. DD goes to high school and finally her challenging exh becomes too much for him. She stopped going after he assaulted her in front of her mates and he was no longer collecting her from school. It was confrontational at first, but we now have months of DD refusing to even speak to him, with him texting her saying she only needs to go if she wants to.
Exh has now sent letters saying that if contact is not reinstated we will return to court. I sent her to the place of collection as stated in the order and he wasn’t there. She texted him to ask where he was, and he said she only had to go if she wanted to, not because I made her. His solicitor had said the fact she went to be collected means she wants contact and I am stopping it. There have been similar conversations about holidays and other arrangements, but he is continuing to text her to say it’s up to her whether she goes or not.
Just to add insult to injury, the legal aid he somehow had for the last four years has apparently been reinstated, on the grounds that he has suffered domestic abuse. How is this even possible???
Apologies in advance for drip feeding but no one would read this post if I wrote all the history!