Farther contacted solicitor 're contact.

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He is demanding to pick her up on a Thursday from school and return her on the Saturday teatime. He works so is unable to do the pick up and drop offs. He doesn't have a bedroom for her. He expects her to sleep in a ready bed or sofa which is in the front room so she has to wait for everyone to finish watching tv before she can go to sleep. Would I be able to stop this biased on the above information. He is also wanting her for a minimum of 3 hours on her birthday which falls on a school day so I would not see her. He also knows I've reduced my hours to spend time with Dd and he is demanding those days as his contact days. Contact was stopped as dd told me about the sleeping arrangements and that all he does is sits her in front of a computer all day and she doesn't like it. She states that she doesn't want to see him anymore will that be took into account at any stage she's 5 nearly 6.

Her wishes and feelings will be listened to but they won't carry a huge amount of weight at that age.

If this goes to court you won't be able to stop contact just because someone else will be picking her up and dropping her off or because you are unhappy with the sleeping arrangements.

As for birthdays, they are the kind of thing that should be split between you so that he sees her one year and you see her the next if it is not possible for her to see both of you that day.

She sleeps next to the dog in the front room surly any judge would see this is not acceptable for a child to sleep.

If he wants her overnight he has to demonstrate the arrangements are adequate. What you describe does not seem adequate.

However you would do best not to stop contact. Just have it happen during the day until he can demonstrate better sleeping arrangements.

How does he intend to make sure she is at school on a Friday?

I've offered a counter offer of seeing her on a Saturday day time. And the day after her birthday when it falls on a school day or after her birthday party when it's a weekend. Once he gets his own place with a bedroom for my dd with a proper bed for her he can have her over night on a Friday.