Gbh

[Bridie1969]

Hi, back in may I caught my best friend kissing my husband. I pulled her hair, she slapped me etc. Anyway 2 months later she goes to the police and makes a statement to say I broke and crushed her fingers. I did not touch her hands in anyway. I explained to the police what happened and he asked if she was drunk, I said yes. He said if I apologise then it may be the end of it. She would have to apologise to me for what she did aswell. If not I may be charged with gbh. I said I'm not prepared to apologise for something I haven't done. I needed to think about it. I've never ever been in trouble before and I m nearly 50 and not sure what to do. Any solicitors on here?

Apologise. This is currently happening to someone I know of. She did what she was accused of but as she didn't apologise she is currently on the way to court for it. Take part in restorative justice it's for the best for you.

It's a kiss and since it presumably was not against your husband's wishes it's not a crime. It absolutely does not justify physical assault and you should apologise. If she then chooses to apologise to you for her dodgy but not illegal behaviour then you can decide whether or not to forgive her, but that's entirely separate from the fact that you have committed a crime and need to take it seriously.

If she has x-rays etc that show the break and that the injury occurred on the date if the admitted assault, I think it would be difficult for you to refute.

Was the policeman's offer to you made formally?

I haven't committed the crime she is saying though.

She went to the doctors about a month after she said it happened.

You admit here you have committed the crime of assault.

Do you want this incident to fade into the past, or do you want to prove some other point?

Policeman had an informal chat.

I haven't admitted it, I said I haven't done it.

She slapped me and I pulled her hair, no finger breaking.

Get a solicitors advice not Mumsnets. Don't take on faith what you were told informally.

So you had an informal chat with the police about a criminal offence??

More importantly I hope you have got rid of the husband! It would have been him I would have slapped!

Apologise (you don't have to specify what for), and move on with your life.

Do not take advice on here. Get a solicitor and do not speak to the police again unless it is official and you have a solicitor present.

Is her finger broken? How did she do it if it wasn't you?

Her fingers bones are mushed. More of an injury of shutting in a door or something. She didn't go to the doctors about her fingers until 4 weeks after she alleged it happened. I've taken legal advice and been told not to apologise for something I haven't done. Thanks for all your comments.

Doctors can tell roughly how an injury happened from the type and placement of the breaks/fractures. I wouldn't apologise

Surely if it went to court your husband would be a witness to say it couldn't possibly have happened