Exh not bothering with contact after years of court action...but still threatening action

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Link to previous thread

DD refusing contact
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/legal_matters/2952244-dd-refusing-contact

The above has pretty much continued, she's gone off to her friends in the holidays and ignored his messages and come home instead. He's allowed it. I've informed him every time where she is and given him the chance to collect her and he refuses.

Until last weekend. He's gone text crazy, demanding I take her to him, forbidding her to go out with her friends even on my days, sending pages and pages of texts about how it's my fault that she doesn't like him etc etc. I again informed him of her location and gave him the chance to collect. He stated "you bring her to me right now" and then blocked me, giving me no chance to respond.

Yesterday she started high school. Court order stated she was to catch the bus to the bus station, be collected by him and taken on the next bus to exh house by him. We have been unable to make contact with him to arrange this, and DD was already distressed about new buses and schools etc.

So DD is currently on her way home. Not sure how to play it. He was going on about more enforcement last week but now has made it impossible to arrange any.

It's like he's forcing me to break the order and making it impossible to arrange contact. I don't know what to do!

Do you have any other means of contacting him? Email? Snail mail? Facebook, WhatsApp?

Court order specifies only text or whatsapp.

And he has blocked you on both? How do you know? Have you anything you can print off?

Also, what actually needed organising about the arrangements today? It sounds as if the order was pretty detailed.

It's a large area. "Meet at the bus station" isn't as simple as it sounds. She's never caught a bus before in her life. As it was, she missed it anyway and came home.

Yes messages previous to being blocked that he was going to block me for refusing to take her to him at the weekend.

He never asked where she was. About 6 he started texting me his orders. He went mental. Came here an hour ago and also went mental. Put the onus on her to have text him to make arrangements. Bought his mate along too. He was a tw*t to her. Her words "why would I want to go now?"

Also, he was seen not in the agreed area anyway. So she would have been wandering around lost if she had obeyed the order.

Now she is secondary, she should talk to her form tutor and year head about this. They will be able to look at safeguarding implications.

Primary always took the "it's a court order you have to follow it" route.