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Fathers rights for full custody

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WhiskyChick · 28/08/2017 06:50

I don't want to give a heap of details for fear of being outed but I need advice for my partner.

He has two children who he is seeking to have full custody of for their safety. At the moment we have been trying to keep the police out of it but it's heading that way. What are his rights legally and what does he need to do to ensure the kids are safe? Obviously he's never going to stop them seeing their mum but it will need to be outwith the situation which is causing issues.

Thanks in advance

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MrsBertBibby · 28/08/2017 07:03

I would suggest he sees a family solicitor, tells them the whole story, and acs on their advice.

insancerre · 28/08/2017 07:07

He will need legal advice as he will need evidence to prove that the children are not safe with their mother

Lucysky2017 · 28/08/2017 07:38

Yes it is best to speak to a solicitor. I know someone who got that. I think he made stuff up and I feel very sorry for the mother. he also then took the children and his new wife to Dubai for 5 years too which was just about as cruel as it gets as they never then saw their mother and had no relationship with her at all.

Also look at the age of the children. If they are 13+ they probably get a choice of which parent they want mostly to live with.

Is she really that bad that they are unsafe living with her or is it just he has different views about things than she does but both might be right?

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WhiskyChick · 28/08/2017 08:34

Thanks all, will pass on the advice.

Its really not that he has differing views on parenting. One has had significant injuries which, when asked, mother confirmed she caused. He's kept all evidence to back it up.

Hate how all dads who seek custody seem to be viewed as not having the children's best interests at heart. If he was an arsehole he could have gone to the police and had her charged but that would have been heartbreaking for the kids and meant them having to give evidence etc

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ems137 · 28/08/2017 10:41

Erm he definitely should have gone to the police!!

dertyyuoih2 · 28/08/2017 10:51

Are SS involved? Personally I would involve them if they aren't already. Then naturally the police would probably get involved.

Are the children safe with you and your partner at the moment? If they aren't with you SS would question why they weren't involved early to be honest.

Good luck but I'd seek advice, I really would.

dertyyuoih2 · 28/08/2017 10:52

Legally if he has PR he can keep the children to keep them safe and not return them. I'd imagine their mum would ring the police and presumably at this point it would all come out

KarmaNoMore · 28/08/2017 11:03

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RandomMess · 28/08/2017 11:13

It's residency not custody...

titchy · 28/08/2017 11:23

So your dp's ex has injured their child (assault) and your dp has neither reported to police or SS, or sought legal advice. Right.Hmm

notapizzaeater · 28/08/2017 11:28

Does anyone else professionally know ? School, SS, GP, ?

Could it have been an accident or deliberate ?

Lucysky2017 · 28/08/2017 13:58

What was the injury? I wouild not rush to the police either. once you get the authorities involved with stuff it's a slippery slope but he should look into it in more detail. If he does want more contact it is best to agree it with the mother for a start and build up from there.

i have trapped the finger of my 1 year old in a door and the end came out (luckily it could be stuck back on) - accident. Lots of children have accidents caused by ap arent and indeed plenty of children hospitalise their parents so it is definitely something to look into to look at the evidence and facts. on the otherh and if she is burning them with irons every night I would be getting an emergency order.

LineysRun · 28/08/2017 14:07

If your partner is serious about this then he'll need to inform SS, the police, and a solicitor, and attend multi-agency meetings to discuss concerns.

How old are the DC?

And this: Hate how all dads who seek custody seem to be viewed as not having the children's best interests at heart That attitude will go down very badly with SS. He needs the show he has the children's best interests at heart.

littlehandcuffs · 29/08/2017 19:59

His failure to report will not go down well with ss.

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WhiskyChick · 29/08/2017 20:59

I just wanted to thank everyone for the replies. I've passed the information on to my partner. I had a bit of a panic and have asked Mumsnet to delete the thread for fear of being outed.

To answer some of the questions - the children are safe and with their dad. The injury was caused on purpose and the mum confirmed this.

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