Going home after refuge

[Anonny1]

I went into refuge 6 days ago. My partner and I were in trouble. I felt emotionally and psychologically abused. And I was.
Thing is, he can see it now too.
He desperately wants us to work on our relationship. Go to counselling etc...something we've not done before.
He has issues from his past. As do I. We were like a hurricane and tornado trying to get along...we've a son too in the middle of all this. I kept because I felt I had no other choice. Not because he was being violent physically.

Just being in here casts him in a negative light but truth be told we BOTH needed help.

We're still in love. We both want our family back. And we're willing to work with whatever professionals to get there.
How do I go about this?
How do I convince the ss ?
Is it better that I get rehoused first, or is there another way?
Any and all advice gratefully received.

If he's been physically violent, he should go on a perpetrators course before you agree to counselling. An ethical Counsellor shouldn't take you on in these circumstances until he has done a course.

As per my message. It is not physical violence.

So what now?

If the abuse was so bad that you ended up in a refuge, I would still not take you on as clients until he had done a perpertrators course, or at the very least had done a significant amount of individual counselling first. So that's where I'd start - individual counselling for both of you, and a DV support worker for you, and ideally him on a perp course.