Exemption from Mediation

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My ex has served notice of his wish to commence mediation regarding our separation, the children and finances.
I have a MARAC form which scores,e as high risk and as I therefore understand it this exempts me from mediation as it is not appropriate. I have left the query with my solicitor but wondered if anyone knows or has experiences of this.

It's strange really, given how tonight and yesterday he sent me beseeching emails writing that he believed we still stood a chance and had a future. Perhaps he thinks Mediation is Relate 🙄🙄🙄

I don't know the answer to his but if he wants to settle things there is nothing to stop hm just making you an offer by email. We had no court hearings. We had no form Es. We had no formal disclosure. We had no mediation. We just made each other offers and counter offers - reached agreement on a figure we could both live with and then had the lawyers write it up into a consent order - no need to pay for mediation, no need to pay for course hearings.

..court hearings...

I have made assertions of criminal conduct / charges against him which the police are currently processing via a vid decision to press and so I don't see how it's conceivable that mediation would work for anything but finances.
I understand the cost implications - though MARAC might entitles me to some Legal Aid assistance - but I am terrified of this person and don't want him to have anything other than supervised contact with the children so fail to see how Mediation would work even if I agree to it. I would really only be doing it to prove how unreasonable he is.
I am separating from an emotional abuser, someone who is rough and careless with one of kids and who has financially controlled me and used me for three years, as well as kept a log on me, went through my phone and recorded on camera as well as sending awful smear campaigns about me on email and shared my maternity notes. I am not sure how mediation would succeed and am almost resigned to an application under the Chilldren's Act as well due to our cohabiting status.

It's a massive mess.

Sorry I meant in terms of it being something salutary for me in terms of him being unreasonable throughout a process he has asked for. I know it is not disclosed. I would seek to have the agreements drawn up in a consent order and I meant unreasonable on the basis that he would not reach agreement with me on anything so that would be pursuant to nothing. Who he really is and who he professes to be are not the same. For example via mediation we'd agree to child maintenance but he has already told me he'd just give up his job and move to Australia so he didn't have to pay for them. Charming, isn't it. These are his children.

He messaged me this evening stating Mediation didn't mean I couldn't come home. He is on another planet in terms of how manipulative he is and how disenfranchised he would really love me to be.

He is living in cloud cuckoo land hoping you will come back.
Some people do mediation where you never see or meet your spouse by the way - separate entrances and separate rooms with the mediator moving between the two rooms.