I split with my STBXH two years ago. He has continually had the same solicitor although every so often he tells me we are not using solicitors anymore and to sack mine. I have changed solicitors mid way through and now representing myself. Orders say due to domestic abuse during marriage and following split including non molestation order the contact we have is via solicitors or the contact book and obviously the contact book is limited purely to children and the solicitors is limited merely to the children and arrangements etc. I now write to his solicitor as have always done and she opens it, stamps it (so probably reads it) and sends it back in a new envelope with a letter to me saying she is not acting. However, on the same day she sends me letters with his instructions and by the way I am acting again now. She knows I am not represented and is refusing to forward my letters but forwards letters with instructions from STBXH. Is that right? Is that fair?