Stopping years long abuse from the family of my estranged ex.

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Divorce completed years ago, no contact whatsoever with the ex, he refuses to see his son. Ex In laws think it is me who is blocking contact (I have kept the door open for them to see DS, until last year when I had enough of their threats and aggression and DS was getting upset. DS doesn't want contact with his dad or the inlaws, neither do I.

I stopped answering calls and email a year ago, but opened the door again as my exSIL claimed exMIL was missing DS so much. I said it was ok for them to see him as long as MIL didn't verbally attacked me or tried to put DS against me (she tells him I am not allowing his dad to see him, which is not true).

I mentioned that, and the attack started. I have receive similar threats from them over the years but they had stopped over the last 5 years. Today, after I said that contact might not be a good idea after the nastiness, ExSIL sent me something that translates like this in a series of texts:

• Fuck you
• You have no idea what is coming your way pig
• You will regret it.
• You didn't do what we said when we asked nicely, you will see we will get it the bad way.
• Hipocrite, you think you are the mistress of the Universe
• Don't bite your tongue, you will poison yourself.

I have been under the protection of police in the past when my ex, after a period of stalking, tried to attack me. The police referred me to a case worker who helped women dealing with domestic abuse. It was a dire time, I had a straight line to the police (if the phone was left unhooked the police would come) and at some point they asked me to go into a refuge.

DS was also a victim of abuse at the hands of his dad. We both have received months/years of counselling to deal with all this abuse. Neither of DS or I have had any contact with the ex for almost 10 years.

I'm trembling after the texts today. I have not done anything wrong but I am scared they may try to hurt me by trying to get DS from me or my ex tries to attack me again.

They are very rich, money buy power, how do I protect myself and DS?

Hi

I didn't want to read and leave you unsupported, that is awful it's clear that the apple didn't fall far from the tree with your ex

You know what you need to do really, contact the police and your previous support worker and make sure you and your boy are protected

What you need right now is support to do that, you will always get that here from fellow mumsnetters but is there anyone in real life for you to lean on for a while

Whatever you do DONT delete the messages, they are evidence they may be horrible but it's important to keep them as they are the key to your support and protection

If you only do one thing today please make it picking up the phone and taking the first step to getting the help you need

I'm sure others will be along and give you better advice, I just didn't want you feeling alone as you posted in the night