DH and I are both early sixties, have been together 15 years and married for 13. We have no DC together but both have DC from previous relationships. The house we live in is in DH’s sole name. He bought it ten years before he met me and had paid the mortgage off by the time we got together. We have both made Wills and under the terms of his Will I have a life interest in the property ad be able to live there as long as I do not re-marry or co-habit. I can also, if necessary, buy another, more suitable property as I get older, on the same basis. On the death of the last of the two of us, the house is to be sold and the proceeds split, 90% to my DSD and 10% between my two DC. This reflects a contribution I made to refurbishment after we married. Our Wills were made eleven years ago and I think they are due for redrafting, given the fact that we have managed to stay married. I have mentioned this to DH a couple of times lately, but he’s not responded as yet.
However, if DH and I were to divorce, I could rely on my rights under the Matrimonial Homes Act, notwithstanding the terms of the Will, and I believe I would likely get more than the 10%.
Looking into the future, my understanding is that if DH needed care, the house would not be taken into account for funding purposes as long as I was still living there, and if I needed care, which is the more likely situation, then I would have no house to take into account anyway, because I only have a life interest.
DH has been talking to a friend who was able to keep his DF’s house in the family by having it transferred to other family members before care costs were incurred and now he wants to transfer his house to my DSD. He says that, as part of the deal, we would get to live there as long as we need to, presumably under a licence rather than a tenancy, but I’m really not sure that this would be a good idea. I think we might be able to show that there was no deprivation of assets as we are relatively young and healthy at the moment, but I believe it would leave me in a very vulnerable position, especially as DSD has been hostile to me through all the years I have known her.
DH seems to trust this friend who he thinks is a bit of a financial wizard, but I’d be interested to hear what others think.