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Volatile ds and DF will and property, she may constest it and damage property

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WhatcanIdo2 · 10/05/2017 21:57

My DSis is much older than me and was estranged from me - due to her treatment of me and my family in her last visits over here several years ago. She has a habit throughout my life of doing nasty things but then forgetting about it and saying to me " don't hold a grudge move on" Thankfully she does live a long way away. After our DM died many years ago - I was made homeless over night and she took all my mums most sentimental possessions and took them off with her. Leaving me with nothing but clothes to sort out. We tried again after my DD was born but as said - she was aggressive again adn left me and DH with a huge bill to pay because she cancelled a hotel at the last minuet and it was on our cc. She showed no remorse and then blamed the hotel man for being a dick - nothing about her own behaviour that caused the bill.

Anyway - when she came on that last visit she told me she didn't want to see DF who lives hundreds of miles away. He was extremely hurt by this and she had no contact with him at all for at least ten years. I had a relationship with DF, visited him, kept in touch, xmas etc, holidays for years.....his health was in decline and he had many hospital visits in his last years sometimes for weeks and weeks.
A few months ago, I got the worst call to say this was it - he was in hospital and wouldnt leave, it was all very sudden and I flew to be with him, and my DC and my DH.

He did a death bed will, and said he didn't want to leave Dsis anything or that he would leave it to me. I said - I think he should mention her in his will as our mother left us both out of hers. I asked him how much he wanted to leave her - and he said " less than what I am leaving to my dear friend X" he came up with a figure for X and assigned dsis less. This was put into the Will - a figure for dsis.

To my utter amazement the family grapevine told her he has passed on, and she flew out immediate and came to our house, we had a nice week although I was walking on eggs shells, she came to funeral whic was small and early in the morning as that was cheaper. DF had little capital and I had no idea how many bills needed to be paid out of it - as well as the behests to her and his friend.
She then turned at the wake, verbally abused me and stormed off. She then presented herself to family as " being cut out - and didnt realise he was so ill etc"

I never mentioned the Will. Now she is saying she is coming back with her partner to " tie up loose ends"!! She is asking about the will and has it been registered etc.

I am worried she will contest it - and I am also worried she will break into my dads property - and I am a long way away, she could damage it - throw paint, or damage his car. She is very volatile and I think she will go berserk when she realises he has left every thing to me. I sayd everything - its a low value property that with "work " and money spent on it - will have rental potential and any money left from his capital will be spent on this. He has always told me the property will be mine and his shares etc. He told his friend this as well.

What damage can she do, is there anything I can do to protect myself and his property.

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JaniceBattersby · 10/05/2017 23:25

I'd put some simple cameras up at his property of you can get there, both inside and out. They might deter her from doing damage, and if she does, you can call the police and there will be proof of her actions.

I'm not sure about the will I'm afraid but the whole situation sounds hideous for you. I'm sorry about your dad Flowers

prh47bridge · 11/05/2017 08:25

She could try to contest the will but as she was not financially dependent on your father her chances of success are minimal. If she damages your father's property she will be committing a criminal offence. As the previous poster suggests, it might be a good idea to put some security cameras up so that you get evidence if she does anything. Even if you chose not to involve the police, with evidence you would be able to take action against her yourself to claim the cost of repairing any damage she does. I hope it doesn't come to that.

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