Hi long story, but I applied for a divorce for my stbx husbands unreasonable behaviour at the start of august 2016. we had been separated for two years and we hadn't seen in him in that time. the same week he got the divorce petition and also the letter from child maintenance for the £3k he owes the children. That week he walked out on the job and has been on zero income since then. He also took me to court for access to the 3 children, which cost me 4k in legal fees, he ended up with only indirect contact of cards 3 times a year with the youngest child. He also refused to return the divorce petition. I issued private process servers which he hid from, he admitted to them via his mother and on the phone he had the papers and was refusing to return them so I applied for deemed service. He then applied for defended divorce. I have spent last few months with his control and abuse via the family court system and now the divorce court system. and also financial abuse. (he was a abusive man in the marriage). I have sent in a lot of forms and paperwork to the judge and today finally heard the decree nisi will be heard on February the 14th (ironically). His application for a defended divorce was thrown out. I think I have to wait for the decree nisi and then apply 6 weeks later for the absolute. My main worry now is finances as he refused mediation. So this will be more court dates. I am disabled and a carer to our children who are disabled. He has a large pension, savings, inheritance etc. (funnily enough he has no income but can run a car and have at least 3 foreign holidays a year where I have no transport and we have not even had a night away in 3 years). I know he will of hidden anything he has. and I am worried about having to face him in court again, I have nothing left for legal fees. Every penny was taken spent fighting him in the family court. They took every penny of a PIP back payment to pay the legal fees so I was penniless. does anyone have any help or advice with the decree nisi to absolute stage, and the finances stage? thank you for reading this x