Divorce - Children

[SanityAssassin]

My husband has asked to divorce me and wants the kids (he wants to give up his job for this - how the hell he thinks this will work in SE is beyond me)

I have been sole carer for the last 9 years adjusting my work hours etc to cover school/clubs as in I have adjusted my above national average working job to enable DH to earn loads

{pus he can't do a day with them without texting me "what can we do"

I would like (obviously!) to stay in our £750 (£180 outstanding) until kids are 18 - I also have inheritance of £200K coming and II don't want him to get his hands on that - also have personal savings of around £100K so does he.

I'm not sure what you're asking...

You need to see abgood solicitor straight away. Don't agree to anything right now.

sorry my husband wants to tell everyone I am an alcoholic (again) I am just bored of this - I'm not he is a bully and thinks he can control me like this. Mindless conversations every evening - he drinks more than me btw and has never organised a thing for our kids.

Don't commit to anything, don't send him any messages agreeing to anything. Keeps screenshots and notes of all interactions with him. Call a reputable solicitor today.

thank you - just so worried since I gave up everything (I had a good carear owned own my property before I met him ) to raise out kids (and now he holds this against me!)

I'm more worried about his false accusations to be honest - he wants to go to a solicitor and just tell them I'm an alcoholic get custody of the kids and waltz of in to the sunset, Can I just counter claim he is? its bonkers.

Could you offer to have blood tests / hair strand tests done to prove you're not an alcoholic? Would they come out okay?

My STBX called children's services anonymously, and told them I was an alcoholic with mental health problems. Two social workers turned up unannounced on my doorstep, it was unsettling to say the least. However, they soon realised it was a malicious allegation from an abusive ex, and they didn't take any action (except to make a note on my file in case it happened again).

green omg that is so the sort of behaviour he would do. He is already trying to market the house behind my back and telling me what I can and can't do and that he is going to give up work and have the children but we might need to move away as can't afford 2 properties here (definitely not if the idiot quits his job)
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I'm at a loss and whilst I know some dads do an amazing job I just can't see my husband thriving in single parent mode and just know my son will be plugged in to playstation and my daughter ignored (as happens most weekend days if I don't motivate)

Please try not to worry. The courts are full of people making spurious accusations about people they are happy to leave their children with asa general rule. Judges are used to it.

You have been the children's main career for years. It won't go down well in court to deliberately make yourself unemployed to upset your ex.

Is the house jointly owned?