Can anyone help me with my dilemma? My 5 year old little boy used to stay with his father and his wife on weekends since he has been a toddler & therefore he has a very strong relationship with his stepmother, in fact this bond is much stronger than that with his father. They have since separated and she has moved out with her 17yr old daughter and live in a house nearbye. Since they have split, she approached me to ask to still continue contact with my son, which I have agreed to as they are so close etc. His father does not want the relationship to continue and demaded that I don't let her see him because she apparently has mothing to do with him, I should add at this point that her 17yr old daughter wants nothing to do with him. I have ignored this explaining that I will let her see him and that they have a strong bond since he has been a baby. In April my son was staying at his dads and on this occasion we had arranged for him to be dropped off the following morning as I had arranged a day out with my other 2 children and he was seeing his stepmother in the evening for a few hours. I received a text msg saying he would drop my son off the following day as he was keeping him until the Friday, to which I replied that these were not the plans and I would pick him up immediately. As I drove into his road, I saw him running out the house with my son trying to get him in his car. I ran up the road and said that I have not agreed to this and that he knew we had plans for the day, eve. He aggressively pulled my son away from me and ran into his house with him. He would not let me take him home and would not answer the door. Police were called, waited couple hours, all reports are on file. So after this incident I decided to temporarily not let him see my son as he then went on to act aggressively around myself and ex-wife, banging on both our doors late at night and stalking outside my house. A couple of weeks after I stopped contact due to his threatening and aggressive behaviour & also he was stalking the stepdaughter, he then sent me a solicitors letter and took me to court for a child arrangements order and to apply for parental responsibility when he has ever had amything to with schooling decisions or anything apart from seeing him on some weekends and then the ex wife was looking after him all the time, leaving him with her a lot of the time and going off fishing etc. So I filled in all the forms included all the police reports etc. regarding his behaviour and went to court at beginning of July. I also set up contact through a local contact centre as I was willing for him to have contact but through a centre at first to access his behaviour and make sure my son was ok, as at this point he did not want to see his dad because of all the aggressive behaviour he had seen etc. I had no solicitor as could not afford one, did it all myself, told them about all the police reports, the stalking the odd behaviour and aggression etc. I was pushed by his solicitor to agree to a child arrangement order which was put through but did not agree to him having parental responsibility and this is due to be heard again by statements at beginning October. She was saying that a contact centre was not the ideal place etc. really wish I had stuck to that plan and was pressurised into agreeing. I have found out from the ex wife that he has been arrested on Sunday for two separate counts of rape by the ex-wife and this is an ongoing investigation which will eventually go to court. In the light of this new information I am even more worried about letting my son stay with him on his own and I don't want him to be with him as I don't know what he may be capable of now. If I refuse to let him see him what will happen with regards to the arrangements order? Will he have to take me back to court? I think I have a good reason not to let him see him, what mother would let their child stay with a rapist!!???.. I need advice am so stressed and the overnight stays at his dads are supposed to start from 5th August he is meant to stay for the whole weekend, alternate weekends as at the moment it has been for the last 3 Sundays from 10am to 2pm first 2 Sundays, then 11-7pm last Sunday and next Sunday. I just cant let him stay am so worried, I don't want to breach the arrangements order but don't want to put my son in danger??