ex won't agree to ANY consent order

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Went to mediation for over a year, to v expensive mediator which ex chose. Finally came to an agreement for consent order, but he has changed it (he calls putting dozens of clauses which will be very expensive to me, tweaking). He has flatly refused over the last yr to agree to anything other than what he had his solicitor draw up. He has now gone back to our mediator and requested a MIAMS (I think that is what it's called), so he can take me to court. What on earth happens now? My solicitor said court will cost me a minimum of £30,000, which I don't have. Even if he doesn't take me to court, I can't move house, rent, sell, or have anyone move in, because the house is still in joint names until consent order is done. He is deliberately stopping me from moving on with my life and getting away with it. Any ideas welcome.

Sorry my Im not saying don't get the house. I'm saying that 50:50 is NOT a good deal if you are the RP of 5 young children and you are , and will continue to be , the RP .

Have you had the pension valued ?

What does your solicitor say ?

Pension was valued whilst going through mediation and my solicitor simply said what deal I agree to with ex is purely down to what I'm happy with. Ex is being ridiculously difficult about agreeing to anything, so will def not agree to getting less than 50% monitary value of everything himself.

I'm not sure if I understand the point of a solicitor who simply says " do whatever makes you happy "

If your DH won't agree you can go court. Either with a better lawyer or representing yourself . It's not easy but others here have done it , with support and advice .

Well of course he won't agree that's why this needs to go in front of a judge .... Do you honestly think you'll get less than he's offering you ? Really