My husband and I are English and live in Sweden (met here just after I arrived) We have 2 children, 5 and 1 year old. I've just ended the marriage after an angry outburst with the threat of physical violence. I've since realised I've been controlled and manipulated pretty much the whole time. As we're in Sweden the norm is joint custody. I would like sole custody firstly as he is not good for the kids (access welcome but the EA spreads to them and I don't want that affecting them). Also I'd like to move back to UK. With ryanair flights and his job he'd have no problems being able to see them once a month. He wants near 50 % access and is assuming shared custody. I don't think he realises I have realised how much he's been manipulating me. I'm worried as if it goes to court the emotional abuse would basically come down to his word versus mine and he can be quite charming. I am trying to seek legal advice which is very expensive here. I'd welcome any advice from anyone with knowledge on this. Babybarrister was recommended!