Grandparents "rights"?

[Chamonix1]

Do they have any legally? Very long and boring story but dp has finally had a huge bust up with his narcissistic mother and I'm very concerned we may have letters through the door from solicitors demanding "access" to dd (3).
They've mentioned before "grandparents have legal rights you know" and used the term "access" a fair bit so just a little worried it was already on their mind.
Help!

I think Cel is right - you see it all the time on the relationships board, ex-P's puffing and huffing about custody - but it rarely comes to anything, because ultimately they have to sit in a solicitor's office and then a court and convince a whole bunch of people that they aren't motivated by spite and bile.

And as Cel says, you and your husband are united in this, which makes a huge difference.

One thing you could do is talk to your HV or doctor so there's a record of your concerns?

Hi, thanks everyone for reassurance.
Feeling a bit better today, but concerned still that they'd get a chance because they've been involved with her life (on their own terms I must say) on and off and I've read of people who have no contact prior to court gaining access.
Dp was saying that by the looks of things they could gain access through court and suggested that we take control of the situation now and offer supervised access every other week or something before they dig their claws in and end up having her unsupervised but I'm just desperately hoping they don't even try at the moment.
I can't sleep properly, I have a job that Involves travelling in between elderly people's houses and when I do the late shift I'm shitting it, I know it's irrational but the whole "watch out chamomix1 you watch out" thing is making me brick it. Having mini panic Attaks once I'm in the car etc, locking the doors as soon as I get in, I've never been like this but I've turned into such a worrier.

Why don't you report theses phone messages? Out sounds pretty scary, and our would give you some ammunition about their behaviour.

I would definitely report these threats. You shouldn't have to deal with this and it will be good to have a record of the crazy.

Thing is I have no proof of lt, other than dp because I replied with "watch out? What should I watch out for" and he just laughed and went on.
I don't know what to do or what he meant :/

Do not offer access. What will be will be, but don't go offering your kids on a plate. Let them fight for them in court if that's what they feel they must do, but don't buckle at the first hint of trouble.

I'm concerned if we don't they'll end up with more access and it will be out of our control whilst if we say "no you can see her once every other week and your son will be there to supervise" at least it's within our control.
On the other hand if we do get a soliciters letter through the door I'm tempted to say that doing so will push us away even further and we will happily emigrate, dp and I could move to Australia with work immediately.

I think I would give them the information about emigration. It might be helpful to them (and you).

Personally, I wouldn't restart access at this point.If they are the kind of people who will never be content and never stop threatening, you could find yourself giving more than you want because the threats keep coming and you will have actually strengthened their position for them.

I think you should consult a family law solicitor.