Sorry if this is the wrong place, unlikely to ever need it because I'm 23 and dp is 21 almost 22 both in good health but we're thinking of making a will anyway to protect our assets.
We have a DD together who's almost 4 months old and we've been thinking about who we'd ask to look after her in the event of our death.
Dps mum looks like the best option, she's late 40s, financially stable, owns her house, has the space for DD and would bring her up similarly to the way we would. My questions are this:
A) can I insist MIL allows my mum access to DD, say two Saturdays a month? My mum isn't in a position to be able to bring her up, but losing me would his her hard enough I wouldn't want her to lose her gd to.
B) Do we have to give guardianship to FIL as well as MIL? Or can we just give it to MIL? Dp and his dad don't get on and he wouldn't want his dad making decisions about DD - I have nothing against FIL personally, but it's DPs decision too. MIL and FIL are married and live together.
C) Can I stop people being able to have access to DD? My dad was horrible to me growing up, abusive; physically, sexually and emotionally. I'd hate for him to have access to DD.
Thank you in advance for your advice.