Woman filming me dripping my kids at school

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Basically, I park in a residential road when I drop my kids to school and there's a resident who doesn't like it. I try to avoid it as much as I can, but sometimes there are no spaces elsewhere. So, there's a woman who photographs or films me and my kids when we do it and I find don't like it. The road is a public road and I have checked with the council that I am not trespassing, and before you say it, I live more than two miles from the school with no public transport, so no options but to drive. Are there any grounds that what she is doing is against the law?

It is very unlikely she is putting this on social media so that is a red herring. She is gathering evidence to put the Council presumably so they put up no parking sights and yellow lines I would imagine or to complain to the school and that is almost certainly lawful.

How do you own a pavement ?

Retro, it's odd, but one pavement is owned by the council and the other by the residents. Not sure why.
I can't imagine the council putting down yellow lines etc as there is no congestion or risk of blocking people on this particular road. There is also no shortage of parking on this road, so I can't see a permit scheme being done....

Speak to the community PCSO person - by email if necessary. They are very good, I had a reply to an email about cycling on the pavement the other day.

they may have a word with her.

As someone else suggested, have you tried waving and 'morning'. Everyday without fail.

Report it to the safer neighbourhoods team and let them have a word if they have the time. It might be embarrassing for her to hear how her actions are being interpreted but maybe not. She certainly sounds very odd and unhappy.

If she is gathering evidence of problem parking, why does she need to video the OP and her DC? And why every morning?

A photo of a parked car would be sufficient.

beryl well, maybe she feels a video is needed? Also, we don't know that she'd ding it with just the OP.

Really, it does rather seem that people do want to sometimes assume the worst of others and want to escalate things that don't need to be.

Unfortunately, you just get busybodies in life - always have and always will!

I think a lot of busy bodies actually have a form of mental illness. I remember parking on a residential street (no parking restrictions and I wasn't bkocking anyone's driveway) once when I coukdnt park in a railway station car park because it was full. I arrived back at my car that evening to find that she had moved her car up to the bumper of mine (no reason to), and had got her neighbour to do the same in front. So effectively I was prevented from moving. It was night time, dark and I was a woman on her own with no other way of getting home so I knocked on the door of the house and asked politely if she could move her car so that I could drive away.

Well, you'd have think that I'd tried to attack her baby or something (she actually did have a baby under 1 in the house so I can only assume she had bad PND). She ranted and raved, told me that she had "had to sit and look out the window at my car all day" (yes - and? )

When I pointed out that I wasn't blocking her in and that there were other parking spaces on the road she completely went off on one, shouting that she was going to "skull drag" me (nice!) and being held back by her sheepish husband. They slammed the door and I saw her in the front room holding her baby as if I was the nasty bad lady come to attack them. Honestly, I was gobsmacked. The neighbour didn't answer their door.

It was only when I phoned the police to say that I had been threatened by a resident that I think she took notice. In the mean time my mum came to pick me up and later when we went back to the car she (or someone) had moved it, and I could drive off without bumping them.

I found out that they moved house later on. As someone else has said, I find it incredible that someone should buy a house near an established thing like a school, station, shop etc then complain at cars using the services legitimately and parking legally. Absolute madness. Don't bloody buy a house there then if you don't the look of other cars!!

dH gets shirty when a neighbour parks their car in front of our house "in his place". I tell him that it's no-one's bloody space and to suck it up. Anyone had the right to park there and we have a hair and beauty salon and a pub at the end of the street so quite often get non-residents parking there. Such is life, they have a right to. Can't understand people getting territorial over a bit of public road.

Any chance this could count as stalking

Big wave, big smile and maybe a choreographed ballet for you all?

She's trying to upset you enough to stop you parking there. If it isn't upsetting you she may stop bothering.

Don't forget your curtsey (sp???) at the end!

I'd leave her anote tbh. I'd say you're spoke to the council and the dchool and itnis legal for you to park there. I'd ask why is she filming your kids because that looks iffy, is she a local pervert?

I'd leave her a note tbh. I'd say you spoke to the council and the school and it's legal for you to park there. I'd ask why is she filming your kids because that looks iffy, is she a local pervert?

I guess she is recording whoever parks there at school run time, not just the OP. She probably does want soem kind of permit scheme but it doesn't sound like she will get it. Just ignore it, neither of you is doing anything illegal.

The thing is, the school run is twice a day - she would never get a permit system. If there were lots of shops and restaurants or a football stadium nearby she would probably have a case. But Jesus, half an hour twice a day . Get a grip, woman and did something else to obsess over.

it's odd, but one pavement is owned by the council and the other by the residents. Not sure why.

That's your answer maybe? Unless there is a public ROW over the pavement the residents own, maybe she's upset that people keep trespassing on it?

Are you sure about that though? Sounds very unusual. Is there a sign?

Collaborate, I don't know if there is a ROW. If we accidentally step on that pavement (it's very narrow, not a real pavement really), is it illegal? Someone earlier said it is, but are you suggesting it's not? There is no sign. I think it's a historical thing as the road was adopted by the council but they only took one pavement. The problem is, the safe and considerate place is park is that side of the road, not the other one, but as I mentioned up the thread, I do try and avoid standing on it as much as I can.

Given that we have established it is annoying but not illegal, I would wave cheerily at her, and encourage the kids to do the same,

"Oh look its Mrs Smith, MORNING!!! lovely day or do you think we'll get rain later? come on kids school time"

"Ooh getting a bit rainy now Mrs Smith, mind you con't catch cold! See you later! "

If she can be PA so can you!!

Perhaps hold your phone up as if you're taking her picture when you see her taking yours. It's not against the law to pretend to take a photo, and she probably will not like it directed back at her.