Is this an acceptable reason to stop contact

[MaryPoppinPills]

Hi
I'm looking for advice as I really don't know where to turn.

Exp and I broke up in Dec because of dv. I don't know where he's staying but me and ds are still in the home which is rented. He sees ds through supervised contact twice a month

Exp has left lots of debt in his name. everything from court fines to parking fines and payday loans probably upwards of 10k as I said it's all in his name and I didn't know about 90% of this.

I'm now getting debt collectors at the door I've had 2 this week alone plus around 20 letters for him. The guy today was happy he wasn't living here as I had proof via my council tax letter but he did say that exp is still stating he lives here.

It's getting the point I'm scared to open my door and it's not like I can hide from them as the house is open plan so they can see in .

So what im asking is can i stop contact until he gives me his address. As I can't contact these collectors as they need an address and just carry on sending the letters.

Thanks

No you can't stop contact

But you can tell him to set up mail redirection via post office ( so you no longer get the letters)

Have you asked him for an address? Has the contact been arranged via court?

He won't give his address my mum asked for it as she's the one doing the supervising the contact. I don't see him thanks to a restraining order.

The contact arrangements are only supervised no arrangement of how often or where they take place. This was what was told by the court when he was there regarding the dv incident. So no concrete contact order as such.

Does he have a solicitor ? Could you re-direct letters / debt collectors there ? Or workplace ?

The court must have an address for him. Chevk it isn't on any docs you have from court. But no, you cannot stop contact.

You might be able to take legal steps yourself to prove he does not live at your address to stop the debt collectors though. Maybe ask your sol or cobtact cab.

ooh workplace never thought about that. That sounds like a plan thanks. He doesn't have a solicitor as far as I'm aware.

Write to all the companies stating he no longer lives there and include copies of whatever proof you have. Inform them that any further contact from them in any form will result in you contacting the police and pressing harrassment charges. Then have someone follow your mum to contact and follow your ex home (secretly obviously) and find his address. Then send it to all te companies.

The debt collector today was after a court debt so I'm guessing the court doesn't have an a dress for him

Probably one dept doesn't communicate with the other more like

You can't stop cintact for that.

Also don't engage with door step debt collectors. If it's court fines they will come with a sherrif and then speak to them.

If it's not in your name you will be fine

No, that is not grounds for stopping contact.

Contact is either in your DS' best interests or it isn't. Also, there is no link in law between contact and finances.

If you DID want to stop contact the appropriate action is to make an application to the court (mediation wouldn't be appropriate as the result of DV) for an order to state categorically what contact should be (or not as the case may be).

Children have a legal right to contact and to stop contact for this reason would have no legal basis. That said, if you want a chat about the situation, get in touch. My other half is a McKenzie Friend and an ex debt collector and could give you a few pointers.