9 yo refusing contact - guardian forcing her?

[ilovemilton]

9 yo dd has refused to go to contact since week two of unsupervised began, after week two consisting of shouting, dragging and being followed by argumentative text messages.

This week I was ordered to take her to exh house, where the guardian told her that she had been ordered to see daddy and that mummy was going to get into serious serious trouble if she didn't go in. DD was told to forget about the abuse and told she needed counselling. DD was crying and refusing to leave the car.

Exh has already applied for an urgent hearing, as I am not ensuring dd goes to contact, even though I take her at the agreed times each week.

Is this the approach the guardian should be taking? What can I expect the repercussions to be?

No one can advice you based on what you have posted. There is undoubtedly a huge back story here. You may only be giving one side of the story. No one can tell (save for you) if the judge feels you've been obstructing or undermining contact. Rely on what your solicitor says. If you don't have one, tell the judge what you think then rely on what the judge tells you to do.

I completely agree with Collaborate. You've posted similar things before. Your case is complex, likely far more complex than this post suggests. If anyone advises you to stand your ground, you could well find yourself in an unthinkable position if the judge feels you are unreasonably obstructing contact taking place. It sounds awful though so I hope you are getting some support/counselling as well as your children.

Yes it is much more complex than this with a massive back story of physical abuse. However, I wanted to know if the guardian can work like this, rather than listen to dd who is saying she doesn't want him in her life, doesn't trust him, that he hasn't changed, he scares her. How can I force her to actually go inside?

It's clearly not as simple as your posts make out. Based on your question in your second post - yes - the guardian can act like that. You can challenge it in court. If you try and obstruct contact, or disobey any direction contained in a court order, you could end up in trouble. Go through the proper channels with your concerns.

The guardian has to go with the court order as do you, go back to court ASAP as DD is old enough for her feelings to count.