Emotionally and psychologically abusive STBXH removed from the marital home by the Police after becoming drunk and threatening. I telephoned them to ask for help when he refused to leave/let me leave. The Police took a lengthy statement from me at the time. I was obviously very upset and distressed.
Because our DC were present, the Police (in Scotland) are obligated to make this known to Social Services via a report. I received a call from SS and voluntarily attended an appointment to discuss events. No further action was taken.
Shortly afterwards my ex made an allegation to the Police about me - unfounded and no action taken after a visit and discussion with the same very supportive Police officers who had attended previously.
Three months after this second event, I received a very aggressive phonecall from the Social Worker I had spoken with after the first incident. They said that there had been another report from the Police and demanded I tell them about it. I stated I didn't know what they talking about and asked for information. The Social Worker just kept repeating "you tell me, you tell me". My mind was racing trying to think of something that could have happened. Finally they gave me a tiny piece of information that clarified for me that they were talking about the false allegation ex made three months ago and not a recent event. I was very shaken by this phonecall.
The Social Worker told me that they were going to visit my ex. Following this visit my ex emailed me and informed me that the Social Worker had read out, verbatim, both of the 'statements' I had made to the Police after both above events. Ex of course denied everything and from then on the Social Worker painted me as the problem.
These statements contained a great deal of personal information and provided knowledge that enabled my ex to continue his abuse and manipulation of both myself and our DCs.
I think the sharing of such sensitive information was morally wrong and gave an abusive man the opportunity to continue to torture me mentally even after I had broken free. I would like to know if, outside of Court, such information can be given by SS so comprehensively to someone accused of domestic abuse?