Feel quite scared...help needed please

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I have posted elsewhere. I have separated from DH and have a DC who is young. DC and I have been seeing DH, almost weekly. DH then wanted time alone with DC. DC is clingly and I arranged a short meeting for DC with DH but DH did not accept it and went AWOL. I am now being told that it's all my fault, I've held DC from DH and am being threatened with the legal route unless I sort this out. DH is leaving a paper trail trying to incriminate me with lies. Anyone would feel sorry for DH. I am really scared as to what he will do and what he will demand. I just need some help please. I have asked what DH wants but have had no response yet he is asking to see DC with me. Maybe he's testing me to see if I will offer time alone? I am very confused.

Why won't you offer your DH time alone with his dc? Is he the biological father? The clinginess to you should subside the more time dc spends with their father. Hope you can work things out for the sake of DC and for everyone to move on... Good luck

Has there been violence from your ex? Is that why he can't see your child alone?

I have offered time alone and because DC is clingy, in small steps...initially there was no request.

So he will only see DC when you are there but is making out you are stopping him having contact alone?

I think you need legal advice tbh. Him using the threat of court - could this be another method of him controlling you?

I think that he wants time alone but won't say what he means. He has not accepted what has gone before. He says that I am being unfair.

You can't stop him saying things that aren't true. But you can build your own paper trail. Communicate with ex by email or text so you have a record of what was said. Keep records of you asking him what he wants.

Keep a diary of whether he shows up or not, and for how long he stays with. He's going to look pretty silly in court if he takes you there for not letting him see DC and you hold up your diary and said "DC was ready and waiting but you didn't show up on the 1st, 15th or 31st."

Maybe you can take a friend or relative with you for when you take DC to meet ex (or ex comes round to yours, whatever), as an additional witness to him not showing up.