i live quite a long way from my mum, but we have been in regular contact on the phone each week.
having had massive issues in the past...i was abused by her husband...my stepfather for many years...and she found out when i was 11 but stayed with him. My two stepsisters and i havent spoken for decades and saturday i recieved a phone call from one of them to say mum had died.
I was told that she had died on wed but they had had to search for a contact number for me as they didnt know mum and i were in touch...adding that if they hadnt rang i would never have known until i tried to call her as usual....this is what happened when my stepfather died...no one told me and i found out 3 years later through a third party who had been told to not tell me!!
Anyway i have stated that i want to go to the funeral and if no one wants to speak to me then fine im there to say my last goodbyes to my mum.
My sister then told me there was a few bits mum wanted me to have from the house...necklace, photos etc...and she would post them down to me after the funeral when she had sorted them.
I know its too early but she made no mention of a will...as my mum has property etc..
way back it was said that when anything happened to my stepdad everything went to mum...then when she passed it was to be split 3 ways between us sisters.
Now in the intervening years she could have changed it again as she was talking to me one minute then wouldnt speak again for a couple of years!
If its the case that she has cut me out then i will be upset but will accept it, but i cant approach my sisters and ask or they would hit the roof and not tell me when funeral is...as i live 250 miles away its difficult.
Is there anyway i can find out what solicitor is dealing with her will or do i just have to leave it in their hands? i do know from what mum told me that when my stepdad died she gave them ten thousand pounds each!! me? nothing!
sorry to ramble on but i feel so lost having lost mum and not knowing whats going on, just waiting on phone call to tell me i may go to the funeral!!
thanks in advance x