There is no way I'd be allowed a mortgage for this amount on my income, but it is still a lot cheaper than renting a similar sized house and I want to keep my equity in the house and prevent uprooting the dcs so really don't want to rock the boat with mortgage co. and risk having to sell.
Stbxh doesn't mind staying on the mortgage (I pay it, it's just in joint names) as he rents and has no plan to buy. He is keeping his pension and paying no spousal maintenance in return for me getting the house.
Is it possible to take him off the title deeds but keep him on the mortgage without freaking out the lender?
I know this makes him technically 50% responsible, but he trusts that I won't expect him to pay it in any but the most extreme circumstance (e.g. me being seriously ill and unable to earn) to keep a roof over the dcs' heads.