simple caution for assault

[disroll]

Hi
I recieved a simple caution the end of last year for assault. What I actually did was grapple with a girl in a bar. There were no hits or punches exchanged.
I work in nhs as a bans 6 so I immediately told my manager.
9 weeks later I was invited to a meeting and told that I was getting an 'alternative to sudpension' whilst they investigate as I could have brought the trust into disrepute and it also could be classed as gross misconduct.
I'm so so worried I've worked in nhs 14 years never been in trouble and never been arrested before.
Some will say I shouldn't of accepted the caution but the police told me it was a slap on the wrist. Also I'd been locked up for 15 hours and needed to get out.
Anyone with similar experiences please comment.
Thanks

I totally sympathise with you as I experienced something similar years ago which still shows up on my DBS checks now, but if I were you, I'd ask to move this to chat - AIBU type responses really won't make you feel any better at the moment.

Ok thank you

Are you a nurse? Or bound by a regulatory body? It might help to give them a call, difficult as it may be, they'll be able to tell you their standpoint on things.

How would I go about moving this? I'm new to this site
Thank you

Phone your Union. Urgently.

Report your post (small 'report' button in the top right of your message). Just write in the text box that you'd like it to be moved, MNHQ will see it and work their magic.

I've asked MNHQ to move it for you :) (if you need to know in the future then you report the post & ask for it to be moved.

Do you have a Union you could contact?

An assault in its simplest form is laying of hands on someone so technically a 'grapple' is an assault. However if you feel you have a defence of some kind then you could have argued that in court. The police in turn would gave had to provide evidence to convict you. Did you gave a solicitor? Do you feel you were misled? If you have a genuine grievence about what you were told in the police station you could make a complaint to the force. However, if it was a simple bad judgement call on the night (the grapple and the choice to accept the caution) you may just want to take a representative with you and honestly tell your board what happened and apologise for making a mistake. Good luck, we all make mistakes!

Hi there disroll - we're just gonna move this into Legal Issues, so you can get the best advice.

Thanks

Are you a hcp on a professional register? As another poster said, I would speak to the regulatory body. Is your union involved?

I have been totally transparent and honest thought out. I do have my union involved which is a good help.
This girl started with me and grabbed hold of me I inturn grabbed her and we grappled for about 5 seconds. I was just trying to get away from the situation
Thanks for the feedback so far ?

Just to add yes I'm a nurse working with vulnerable adults. So I've been taken away from clinical duties until it's investigated

The problem is a caution is an admission to the crime. End of story. It's effectively pleading guilty without going to court.