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Relocating / agreeing with ex

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Noregrets78 · 17/10/2014 23:30

I am currently planning to relocate (within the UK) with my DD, including changing her school. My XH is abusive, and has very infrequent contact with DD. He's also moved out of our current area himself.

I do plan on discussing this with him, but doubt very much that he will agree. I'm content this is all in DD's best interests, I'm aware that he could apply for a Prohibited Steps Order, but I doubt very much that he'd want to set foot in a court room. I think, therefore, that there is little need for me to apply for a Specific Issues Order.

So my main question is - will this cause me problems? I seem to need to wait until very close to the time to apply for a new school, as they refuse to hold places for more than about a week. Am I at risk of them turning me down, on the basis I don't have permission from her Dad? DD is looking forward to this, and it's a big move for me too in terms of jobs etc. I really cannot risk it all falling apart a week before we leave.

He has PR, and we have no court orders in place.

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Greengrow · 18/10/2014 09:49

I doubt a school would ask if you had permission to move the child. I am not sure if school applications need both parents to sign to apply however.
You are right that you could move and then it would be up to him to apply for the order. I would have thought you would probably be all right. If you are moving away from the area his family are in though it might be nice after you move to make sure his parents know they can still be grandparents to the child as I always think it's a big unfair if they can't stay in touch. I pay for my 5 to go by train hundreds of miles every year to see their father's family and they do appreciate that.

Hopefully a family lawyer will come on here and answer.

Noregrets78 · 18/10/2014 10:31

Hi green where we live is nowhere near either of our families. I already take her to see various members of his family, so that would still continue.

Need to decide when to tell him. Theory is that we sit down and discuss like responsible parents, but I am worried about his reaction.

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