Advice needed re children, contact, not being Listened to :(

[Natural36]

Hi I really need advice because I don't know what to do or where to turn. My children are 6 and 4, in the past years I left their dad went to crown court against him ( rape ) he was acquitted , I had prohibited step and and injunction. Those ended and he was gated supervised contact. The judge in family court has ignored social services report and cafcas and basically has said the kids are to have contact fortnightly in a contact centre, there have been 2 sessions. They leave my six yr old angry she scratched her brothers neck and left big red marks she got angry with me she won't listen when you talk about her dad she's scared and anxious anyway recently there's been Sa psychologist he recommends supported contact ( at the moment it is only supervised ie being watched no reports done) and the psychologist said it should be reported on how they are . He went on to say unsupervised contact in the upcoming half term. Now the ricks are my ex had ongoing mental health issues god was very child like at tines , he walked up a motor way and that's without him shouting at the kids . He used to get very angry in front of them .. Often leaving us all upset to the point of crying and cuddling close . His family are known to social services , he has past convictions his dad was in prison for a long time for horrendous crimes ... Get the court and judge seem to be siding with fathers rights. You see it in the media how the kids are fair for unsupervised contact and killed ... I'm so worried . The psychologist said about my ex wanting to rush contact forward but feeling like my eldest was unhappy and that god was trying to split his time equally.,. I am worried sick. Social services said they can't do anything as the court made a contact order.. I do have residency. Surely social services can do something more the children are under CIN due to my ex. I've done everything I can to protect them it breaks my heart to think that I'm going a finest everything I believe in but I have to take the kids to contact. They say about fathers rights what about children being listened to my younger one just goes along with it but the eldest is affected .. What if he hurts my kids :( help please

Nobody here should advise you to break a contact order.

How long is the unsupervised contact for?

It's very unusual for a judge to ignore the Cafcass recommendations. They have to explain why if they do. What reason did he give?

Same here,

make sure that you do "safety drill" make it a game...if something goes wrong at home who would you phone?, where would you go etc. then rehearse it for Dad's place, and for any other place they spend time frequently. Ask the school to keep an eye and good documentation. Equip them as best you can. Consider a "first phone" with your number on speed dial.

It's hell.

Hope and pray that he gets bored....make sure he never sees you upset or anxious so he has no sense of "winning" or controlling you through contact.

Write to the Cafcass officer (assuming your case is still ongoing) stating your concerns, the reasons for them and the effect current contact is having on your child(ren). Write it clearly and get someone else to read a draft.

Good luck.

Basically the cafcas didn't speak with my ex due to the background of the case so it was one sided as they never spoke with him. . Social services said that they found him threatening this was felt by the sw student sw and the head of the department . I'm not asking for advise to break the order ... I just wanted to know if anyone's been trough similar if social services has any powers that can go over this for the sake of the children. The supervised contact is ongoing but apparently it lasts up to 6 months . When the psychologist suggests he has unsupervised contact they will of seen him 5 times . I am going to start a proper diary of events with the kids and be speaking Monday with social services and my solicitor , they seem to side with whatever they're told . Feeling really lost . I took massive steps to report him .. And the control and the nightmare
Pretty much continues . I refused to move ... I refused to be defeated but this is really hard

And I will request that they get a theirs party to speak with my daughter I'm telling her it's ok to tell others what she wants as right now she's only telling me and I don't want to be seen to be putting words in her mouth all that matters to me is my kids and their safety . It's more emotions and mental health I'm worried about . And him being unpredictable . How can someone who has seen a person on two occasions say that they think it will be fine to have unsupervised . I am despairing . Everyone wants concrete proof of what will happen by how can you say what will happen when you don't even know ... The court room is horrid. And no I don't let him see me anxious sat angry ( I don't get visually angry anyway .. The psychologist said something I believe for reaction and I just ended up with silent tears when he was I believe seeing if I got angry )