Hi
Was wondering if someone could offer there opinion or some advice please.
Heres a little back ground:
2 years ago my partner took his ex to court for contact with his 2 young children, he represented himself with me helping with statements etc. he basically asked for pretty standard contact every other weekend alternate Xmas holidays etc and as he worked nights (shift Sunday night till Friday) 2 afternoons a week he collects the children from school for couple of hours before he goes to work. His ex fought him making many allegations drugs and alcohol abuse etc so he did tests all negative and contact started straight after the first hearing it started in contact centre building up to having children overnight at ours. in the court order the weekend contact was only sat 10 am - sun 4pm but it was soon agreed between them we would have kids Friday nights too.
The last 2 years have been pretty good, No playing games by her (which happened previously) we occasionally had kids more often or longer. Things were very amicable considering she never wanted me near her kids I had the children overnight after her dad sadly passed away and my partner couldn't get the night off work so things were settled and both parties realised they had to be flexible and all was civil.
Ok so fast forward 2 years due to personal issues we have had to live separately him being back at his mums. He has still had the children as he was meant to having them weekends at his mums, unfortunately his mum said she didn't want the children there overnight at weekends as she was exhausted after working full time and they can be quite hard work and noisey etc. He explained this to his ex and she was ok with no overnights a little annoyed but ok. Then to top it all off he just lost his job!! He has got a new one now but it's working days 8-5 starting Sunday and finishing Friday (same shift as his nights but as days, it's same company different depot in different town so travelling plus staying on if jobs aren't finished) so he at the moment can't pick children up from school and on his weekends he will be working the Sunday so only has Saturdays.
He has explained this to his ex and she has kicked off I guess a few things have happened like no overnights so tipped her over the edge, she has said he's in the wrong he should of found a job to fit around the kids and the court order which is un realistic he said he's back earning so can provide for the kids again (has always paid through CSA) and if he didn't get a job but had kids he'd also be in wrong for not providing.
She has basically told him he has to have the children every Saturday on his 1 day off he has a physical job and has said he needs a day off too which as you can imagine hasn't gone down to well and has said he does it or doesn't get to see them and to take her back to court, but she does also get a break while kids are at school as she doesn't work, I can see both points of view.
Sorry it's so long but can anyone suggest where he stands or what he should do?
Thanks