I've posted on another thread and was advised to posed a message here.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2159722-I-only-want-to-do-whats-best-for-my-family?noti=1#49017385
In short, my wife is having an affair. I have spoken to her about it and no it's as if we didn't have the conversation. She is in constant contact with him. I work abroad which is an added complication. We have three children and, if worse comes to worse, they are my priority, followed by our house and assets.
My wife works 3 days a week in a well paid job. I earn a littler over double what she does at the moment but pay almost 5 times what she does into our joint bank account. My current work contract ends at the end of next month. The mortgage is in joint names.
He has been to our house while I have been working away and spending time with my children. They are talking about setting up a home together with our children. Are there any options for keeping him away from our house?
I am looking for advice on several different options in terms of what might happen in terms of access to my three children, assets, finances, maintenance if it comes to divorce:
Option 1: Things stay as they are. I work abroad.
Option 2: I return to the UK to our home and take a low paid job (less than she is learning).
Option 3: I return to the UK to our home with no job.
Options 2 or 3 are currently my preferred options as I want to be there for my children. The only reason I am working abroad is for my family. If that is going to break down then I would rather be there for my children will little or no money!