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Refused Mail Advice

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Betapup1973 · 14/07/2014 16:16

I was sent a package which I refused by way of placing a note to the door, stating that the item was refused. The courier put a delivery note through my letter box stating "refused". I heard no more on the matter and a week later the item was delivered while I was out and was accepted by my neighbour (my neighbour is not aware of the issue with unwanted packages). As I refused the package once, and not expecting redelivery to be attempted, I removed the note refusing the item from my front door. should the courier company have redelivered an item which I as recipient refused? The company is being difficult and told me its my problem and I have deal with it by contacting the sender. The sender is the office weirdo that has been stalking me for the past year despite leaving the office he works in 12 months ago and has been sending all items using royal mail anonymously as I have not responded to any of the stuff he has been sending, he used a courier service to record my receipt this time. I would have never accepted the parcel if I was at home and as I had refused it once, I certainly was not expecting the package to be redelivered. What is my position, he always sends items with no address for return or evidence that it is from him e.g. unsigned, typed address label, new packaging. The package was delivered by a private courier service and not Royal Mail. I've not opened the package as I want it removing from my property by the courier company and returning to the sender. Any advice would be welcome?

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Finney2 · 14/07/2014 20:29

Yes, police would be my first port of call.

Goldmandra · 14/07/2014 20:32

I agree with PPs.

Give the parcel to the police and ask them to return it to him when they go and advise him to stop immediately.

Betapup1973 · 15/07/2014 00:38

Thanks for the advice. He once worked for the police and knows all the ways to get out of the problems he makes for other people. I'll try and get proof from the courier company it was him and take it matter further.

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Goldmandra · 15/07/2014 00:49

This sounds like a nightmare.

I hope the police step up and deal with him. Nobody has the right to make you feel like this.

Do you have RL support?

Boudica1990 · 15/07/2014 00:54

I would contact the police in the first instance, see what they will do. It is a form of harrasment I believe.

FishWithABicycle · 15/07/2014 01:00

what a horrible situation.

I think you do need to get the police involved - even if you suspect it won't work you need to try.

The courier company has not been unreasonable, they accepted a contract to deliver the parcel. They were not to know that this one was an unwelcome harassment.

I would put a permanent note on your door saying "Due to an ongoing harassment/stalker issue, ALL parcel deliveries to this address are REFUSED and must be returned to sender or destroyed if no sender record exists". Then arrange that your own wanted parcels are delivered to your home address, or your nearest amazon lockers or poste restante.

Unexpected · 16/07/2014 13:47

How did you know that this person was going to send you a parcel on that date? If he has a history of sending you unwanted packages, I thnk you need to leave the note on your door permanently - or at least until this gets sorted. Quite apart from this latest package, I agree with those who have said you need to go to the police about this, sounds horrible. Do you have any way of proving his previous harassment - are there any records with HR, phone records, etc?

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