Emigrating for work - likelihood of successful block by ex?

[Angelwoes]

I'm looking at my work options due to an ex problem and I am returning to a former career in which there are no local jobs (apart from up north). There are lots of jobs abroad in Saudi/Australia.

I have a very young child with an abusive, controlling ex who admits he is "obsessed with me". Part of my motivation to go abroad is to be able to work and live a peaceful life with my child (my ex turns up at my home nearly every day banging on the door because he can't bully me into what he wants through solicitors around contact so he has resorted to trying to directly intimidate me in my home, which is very stressful - as the police and solicitor say he can "do what he wants" because "he is not threatening to kill/harm you"). He won't do anything official like go to court because he wants to be allowed to continue drug using, have access alongside, and have personal "friendships" and "meetings" with me.

I fully understand that I would have to send her over to see him etc, and I'm sure I know the answer to this . . but is it pretty much guaranteed that he will successfully block me due to "child contact"? He hasn't seen our child for months because he wasn't able to have direct access to me (it was via a contact centre) and he has been avoiding the CMS.

Ok thank you, I will have a look at the application process. I'm not in a position to apply just yet as I still have to secure a job somewhere which will take a while. It's helpful to know the duration for an application . .

Seriously, they have said there's nothing to be done about him harassing you? That's awful.

I would ring the police station and ask to speak to a senior office or the domestic violence unit who understands stalking and harresment laws - there does not need to be a threat of kill or harm - sending repeated bunches of flowers can constitute harresment. Make a formal complaint if you are not taken seriously.

as MellowAutumn says

there is a good website about harassment i will try to link to

it is called the stalking helpline

www.stalkinghelpline.org

Does he have PR? You can (should) also apply for a non molestation order. You could do them both together. It is a good idea to apply for removal leave now, just in case you need it. You can always withdraw. Harassment is NOT just threats to kill; Mellow is right.

when he's there ring next 999 and say you're distressed and scared (police have advised me to do this so not bollox) they will come out every time and remove him or arrest him, serve a harassment order upon him and maybe caution and look for a conviction..

The other officer was wrong