I have recently been taken to court by my other halfs father and been ordered to attend mediation. From that I have felt pushed into letting him see my daughter, which I agreed to hoping things would change. In the past he had not so much as asked how my daughter is for the previous 3 years and all of a sudden he wants to see her. The first meeting was meant to be somewhere such as a play centre but as I went down with pneumonia, I asked it to be at our home. My daughter is frightened by him as he is a stranger. But that's no excuse not to keep trying I suppose.
Begrudgingly made him feel welcome on both occasions and he was polite to me also. We agreed for contact to be as and when around our family and work commitments, he was fine with it. So we thought.
Last week at court he told his solicitor how find of him our daughter was, she wouldn't leave him alone etc, in fact she was scared of him and kept her distance. He went on to tell them I had a poor upbringing which is completely untrue. We heard these lies as he told his solicitor from the other side of the waiting room. He then said he wants to see her 4 hours every weekend. His solicitor made me feel bullied, especially when I rd her I work full time and I work over the weekends as does OH on Saturday's. I was tild she didn't understand why I won't allow GF to have my daughter on his own if this is the case, then went on to telling me to maybe leave my job as this is more important. I got it down to once a month with a fight, then it's been put for 6 hours for that one day. I get one day at the weekend off every month, this would take up 6 hours of my only weekend day, the only day I really get to spend time with OH and DD, I tried to explain this and was called unreasonable, they won't allow any visits within my home any more and they won't accept my offer of 2 hours on a weekend and an evening during the week maybe.
Hes been really two faced and they believe all his lies, even his own son has said the same as I have but we keep being told just because we're DDs parents, it's not an excuse to stop her having a relationship with this bitter man, I feel like iv been betrayed and bullied and I'm deeply upset that the one day off we both have to do something as a family now has to be spent with this lying manipulating man.
Iv read that grandparents have no rights, why is he being granted with all this while we, the parents are spoken to with disrespect and made to feel pushed into a decision.
What can I do?