Bare with me this is a long one...
Any advice on what steps to take next would be much appreciated.
My ex and I have been going through a residency case for over a year now. DD is only 3 and I have full residency and ex has 1 night and 1 evening a week of supervised (by his parents) contact. I feel that our judge does not take into consideration dd wishes or needs in our case. Ex is an alcoholic which was medically proven last year by a doctor who said he was a 'chronic alcohol abuser', our r.ship was volatile at the best of times, he was violent, drunk ect, which the judge knows. He also kidnapped my daughter, with his mothers help for a week in December 2012. He has appeared for contact twice in the last 6 months VERY drunk but not been reprimanded in court, and the supervisors who brought him to my house in that condition are still deemed suitable! ex's criminal record is vast, including 3 drink drivings and a lot of domestic abuse (he is currently waiting to the tried for another d.abuse at the end of may). Ex and I lived together until dd was 18 months and he was rarely home (maybe 2/3 days a week) as he drunk a lot then I moved out and he saw dd twice in 7 months, through his own decision, until I met my new partner and since then he has had me in court every month. ex also got drunk during his contact with dd around 8 months ago and after a further domestic he is not allowed contact with me and is banned from the town I live in. However it doesn't seem to mater what ex does it all seems to be ignored in court, I feel he has too much contact considering the circumstances and I know he plans to apply for joint residency after his criminal case in may which terrifies me!!! I don't feel that dd is safe with him, or his parents and now he has applied to take her to Spain for 2 weeks, which my solicitor advises me is very likely to be granted. dd is hysterical about contact and has to be physically pulled off me screaming and kicking but if I refuse contact I have been warned I will be arrested. Ex also doesn't pay any child support after a lengthy battle with csa they have decided he doesn't earn enough....ex is a very wealthy man, with several properties, a trust fund and stocks and shares ect. I have recently found out the ex and the judge share a very close family friend, can I ask for a different judge or will that affect my case? I might also add that no queries about my parenting have ever been raised in court, the judge agrees that I am a good mum and that dd is settled and happy with me, so why is he punishing us both?
Any advice on how to go about this would be deeply appreciated...