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ExH moving abroad - wants to have DS once a year for long period

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Blueuggboots · 13/02/2014 09:38

Split up with H last year.
DS came with me. H has had very little contact with DS - HIS CHOICE - has seen him a handful of times and talks to him on skype when my DS (who is almost 3) asks to speak to his Daddy. I NEVER refuse this request but my ExH doesn't always answer.
ExH has now told me he is emigrating to Canada and wants to speak to DS on skype weekly and then wants to come and get him and take him to Canada every summer for 4-6 weeks.
Would a judge during a divorce agree to this?
I'm not saying he can't do it but I'm concerned about ExH having no clue about his day to day life and then expects to have him for an extended period of time?
I'm also concerned he will be a real disney dad (he has previous form with his daughter!) and not parent his son when he's with him, leaving me to pick up the pieces on his return.

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Seabright · 27/02/2014 20:28

Getting a work permit in Canada is really, really hard. My step-son has lived there 7 years, owns a property, in a long term relationship with a Canadian, has a sought after skill and has only just been granted permanent residence; up to now it's just been one 6-month work permit per year.

You can't just move there & work.

Blueuggboots · 27/02/2014 23:17

Even if you have a job offer?

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MooseBeTimeForSnow · 28/02/2014 02:44

Not likely for that job. My DH only got a job here because it was so specialised there were no Canadians who could do it. His company had to jump through all kinds of hoops to get his work permit, which was only valid for one year. Luckily his company sponsored our PR application, which was granted 6 months after we arrived.

If he applies to emigrate through the embassy I think the waiting time is about 3 years.

VandaHookeriana · 28/02/2014 02:55

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Blueuggboots · 28/02/2014 08:40

I've got no intention of letting him go anywhere unless his dad starts seeing him regularly. But as someone else said, the more I fight him about it, the more he's likely to dig his heels in and be more determined!
From the things being said on here, he's not likely to be going anyway!

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VandaHookeriana · 28/02/2014 10:25

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