Another falling out with my daughters father, this time he has allowed his girlfriend and her friends to make sexual and nasty remarks about my daughter (age 2) on his fb page (personally not happy about having pictures of her on their either). She also comes back from visits upset and with strange ideas (eating breakfast makes you fat for example). I have asked for remarks to be removed and i've been told to get a sense of humour.
Previously he has never been consistent, and often forgets to collect her from nursery as he's asleep, and often verbally nasty and aggressive.
From this last incident I have told him again if you do not protect her from psychological and emotional harm and are not consistent in having her your not taking her ( I have constantly tried to help with access, dropping her off, picking her up changing times to his convenience) He left when she was 12 weeks then made no contact for over six months since then it has been ad hoc.
This results in his default position of 'i'm going to take her from nursery and ill look after her' which panics me, although he always said things along this theme but never any action.
Do I:
a: apply for a PSO so he can not remove her from nursery without my permission
b: move nurseries and not tell him
c: also apply for a contact order in order to ensure consistency
d: nothing, wait how long it takes him to get in touch to see her again
(what would I do then let him have access or not) or if he tries to take her.
e: Is there a solution i'm just not seeing
Part of me doesn't think he could be bothered to complete a court order and pay a fee (he can't turn up to collect her).
From what other people have to deal with and access is still granted I don't think legally I can stop access but i'm not happy with taking 2-3 days every two weeks to get her calmed back down (after she spent the weekend with him) and trying to remove the rubbish being put into her head.
Help as a mother im told I have the power but the reality is I feel like I have none.