Contact Order-Anyone experience

[happymummy00]

Hi, I am new to this site and after some advice.

I wont get into to much depth straight away but basically i have had no contact with my parents for the last 4 years.
They then discovered i had a baby and want access. I now have to go to court this month about a contact order.
Now i know everyone says grandparents have no rights and they will do what is right for the child but i wanted to hear about real experiences of this. Has anyone ever been through this? What was the outcome?
I have tried to google but all i come across is what people say, i havent read anything saying it happened to them etc.
Can someone please help? I am extremely upset about this and the thought of anything being granted is so distressing!
Please help...thanks in advance x

I think you'd be better getting 30 minutes free legal advice from a family solicitor in your area, it's a complicated area.

Grandparents DO have rights.

A close friend of mine went through this they took into account her relationship with her parents & they had to prove they'd played a signification role in her DC's life. They had no contact with her for 6 years and hadn't played a part in her DC's life so no contact was granted.

I cant afford a solicitor and currently on maternity leave so we are doing this ourselves hence needing advice.

I havent seen my parents in 4 years and they have never seen my child

That will go in your favour.

You'll speak to CAFCASS who will ask you your view on things they'll also do the same to your parents, you'll then go to court and it'll be put before a judge where you'll put your sides across.

If you haven't spoken to them in so long because of abuse, violence, manipulation ect then tell cafcass and the judge.

I have not had it happen with grandparents but with my ex's sister (dcs auntie) she took me to court for access and won. She is only allowed supervised as I proved to the court her aggressive behaviour ect... Hence the reason I refused contact.

I do think you need some free legal advice good luck op

Addicted to latte. Wow. That's awful. I'm glad it's supervised only but still. Scary stuff isn't it Did she already have an established relationship with your child though?

Good luck OP. I hope the fact they have no relationship with you and have never met your child means it is pretty cut and dry. X

Sometimes the shared love towards a child can heal wounds, make the past seem unimportant as you imagine what future a child might have. Is mediation out of the question?

We have refused mediation and also contact through a centre.

addictedtolatte-That's awful. Did they have a relationship prior to this? Do you now agree to the contact and take your DC?

Hi mumtobe she had a supervised non regular contact with my ds then went on to assault me whilst I was heavily pregnant with dd. it's all on police record :-(

Happy mummy she seen my ds about 4 times in 2 years all of which I supervised. I don't agree to the contact but the courts forced an order. She can only see children during fathers contact and can never be alone with them. My ds who is 5 is fully aware he can't be alone with her. The fact that your parents gave not got a relationship with dcs will go in your favour good luck

Your parents have no hope of a court ordering contact as a) you have no relationship with your parents & b) they have never had a relationship with your child as he/she was born after your current estrangement from them.

They are on a hiding to nowhere.

So, its odd that they are making an application!

There's no history of social work involvement or any such thing is there? ( in the sense that they are making a contact application based on kinship rather then concern)

It says that grandparents have no rights and then they must have a meaningful relationship prior but i have spoken to a couple family solicitors for free consultations and they have said they cant rule it out as it has happened in the past!

No social services have not been involved.

They didn't even know i was pregnant then found out i had my little girl and all of a sudden want to know.