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Divorce finances when no nisi

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oldfatandtired1 · 15/12/2013 10:54

My H left me nearly 2 years ago. I have now petitioned him on UB and he has acknowledged service. I have not yet sworn the oath to get nisi as I need to pay £600. I do work - 27k per annum - but as STBX cleared out our joint accounts I'm having to build up savings. I also have to pay my son's rent at Uni.

H has now applied for the financials at court (in March). I can't decide whether to self rep or get solicitor's help. She needs 1k on account to start the financials, I would have to put it on credit card. Can we (hopefully) come to a consent order without the nisi being applied for? I know the actual divorce is the easy part and the finances take longer. He earns a 6 figure salary and has a pension pot of 400k and thinks that, after 24 years of marriage, he only has to give me 50% of house equity Sad

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crazykat · 15/12/2013 10:59

I don't have any experience but if I was in your situation I'd definitely get a lawyer especially as it sounds like your ex will fight you for every penny. It's not ideal putting fees on a credit card but would you be able to get one with 0% interest for 12 months or more?

oldfatandtired1 · 15/12/2013 11:21

Thanks. I agree. It's not a desperately complicated case - house and pensions are all we have really. But I know he has an offshore account which he'll try to hide!

I think I'll put it on a credit card. Barclaycard keep sending me letters about balance transfers so if I put it on my Santander card I can then transfer the balance? Oh, for that lottery win!

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mineofuselessinformation · 15/12/2013 12:05

I started divorce proceedings, then xh took me to court for financial settlement (in wouldn't agree to his offer). It was all done on the same day - absolute and financial settlement. I would get the divorce underway. At the moment, he may think he has the upper hand.

babybarrister · 15/12/2013 13:48

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RedHelenB · 15/12/2013 14:50

Consent order has to happen after the divorce though, often at the same time. If you are talking lots of money it would definitely be worth putting it on your credit card to start with.

oldfatandtired1 · 15/12/2013 14:52

Baby barrister, that's interesting. I will investigate that. My solicitor is a member of Resolution while H is using a high street lawyer who specialises in immigration!

I have 10k credit on a credit card. I'll use it. (Well, I hope I don't have to use it all!)

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