I have been married for 13 years. The mortgage is in my name only, I bought the hose before we met. I am the main earner approx 2 1/2 times his salary. I work 4 hours a week more than him. We have a 11 yr old dd. He is a regular binge drinker twice a week the evenings prior to his days off. These evenings are hell for me n dd. he becomes abusive verbally, foul mouthed and derogatory about friends and family. Occasionally physically abusive too. Shouts, bangs doors no consideration that it is unreasonable and inappropriate behaviour in front of me or more significantly dd. For several years he has slept in spare room and dd sleeps in my bed (super king size). This came about because he was drunk and I didn't want to share bed with him and dd was scared by his behaviour. On days in between we can chat he can be ok and responsible but not great. My mother has recently become quite ill so I have less patience to deal with the crap nights and he has no understanding of my grief. It seems almost like jealousy that I have even less time to listen to him moaning about his work for hours. Last night horrible he thumped me in the chest in front of dd, abusive, swearing, very dunk. I have asked him to leave in the past but he won't. Home here much more comfortable than what he could afford. I don't know where I stand financially if I filed against him for abuse. Could he claim money from me? I don't want to loose our home for dd n me when he is the cause of the problem. We have lived with this situation for too long now. Dd loves him but we both hate him on the bad nights. We end up going to friends homes, out for drives to the cinema, travel lodge to keep safe and get away from further confrontation. My manager and work colleagues and friends know some of what goes on, but very difficult to tell all. I do care for him but would prefer to go it alone and keep safe and stop dd being witness to his drunk abusive behaviour. Help don't know who to turn to for advice without it costing arm n leg.