Threatened with divorce of infidelity which hasn't happened

[LUCIA22]

My DP s accusing me of infidelity but I havent done anything. I would never and have never been unfaithful. He has a list of times where he is convinced i was up to something with a whole list of people mostly based on body language exhibited by me or them. He as suffered from paranoia in the past and I think he is now. He recently went to the dr to discuss the possibility of him having aspergers. The dr pretty much dismissed it without considering the possibility of it being something else bearing in mind past history. He therefore now believes he is fine and his perceptions are reasoable. He as told me I ave week to get a solicitor sorted. We have two small children. I don't have money for a solicitor, I don't want a divorce. I want him to get medical help. Where do I stand?

We tried relate. He didn't like someone asking questions of him and basically told them that he was a high achiever and I wasn't. We didn't get as far communication issues and his accusations of me. He refused to go back on the basis that he was going to get assessed for aspergers as he had researched it and felt that might be a contributary factor. He s now refusing to accept that there is anything wrong with him.
I am just sad to have to let ths happen when I don't think it is right.

if someone wants to rely on adultery they have to 'prove' it, unless the other person admits it.

usually the only 'proving' is that the petitioner says "she told me she had slept with another man" or something like that, then the respondent is asked whether they admit it. If the Respondent says "no I do not admit it,this is false", then the court is likely to call you both in to discuss how to approach the case.

So you will have a chance to deny.

But as babybarrister says, if he relies on "unreasonable behaviour", the court does not investigate the reality.

That's the legal answer, but what you do to persuade him not to seek a divorce but to try again with your marriage - I don't know

When i was going through my divorce i had to cite unreasonal behaviour. I wanted it written down that he had commited adultery but my solicitor said that it is hard to prove even though the OW had basically moved into our home the day after i left & was also pregnant 3 months after i moved out.

I would look at your situation and think about your children. Do u want them growing up in this situation. Or maybe think about a trial separation.