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Ex demanding money

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MsMoose · 01/11/2013 10:25

We split several years ago. Never married but jointly owned a house. Ex owed me a substantial cash sum. He always acknowledged that he owed me this money but never volunteered payment. At the time, I requested (via solicitor) that the equity be transferred to me in full settlement of any monies owed. Given the figures, I felt this was fair and my solicitor agreed. I only ever wanted back what I was owed. He ignored the letter. I then offered him a cash settlement to transfer the equity. He ignored that letter too. Child maintenance is via a csa order. He pays the minimum he can get away with.

Fast forward a couple of years and he finally agreed to sign the equity over to me. Solicitors dealt with everything. He received no cash.
Two years later, he's now implying I promised him money from the house. He hasn't asked me for a specific sum. I suspect he's in financial trouble - credit cards etc. He's always been hopeless with money. Could he pursue me for money? If so, how? And would he have any chance if he went to court?

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Quoteunquote · 01/11/2013 19:47

No idea but what a total twonk.

Tell him NO.

DameDeepRedBetty · 01/11/2013 19:52

I doubt it very much. I take it he's using the letter you wrote offering him a cash settlement to transfer the equity, but that's all been superceded by the agreement he and you came to via the solicitors when he transferred equity.

Hopefully one of the genuine legal heads will drop in soon to completed put your mind to rest about this.

MsMoose · 02/11/2013 07:56

Thank you. I hope you are right. I suspect he's probably too broke to pursue me through the courts anyway. And yes, he is an utter twonk.

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babybarrister · 02/11/2013 10:01

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MsMoose · 02/11/2013 11:51

Thanks babybarrister. I will have to go to my solicitor if he persists. At the moment he has only approached regarding this me once by email but I imagine he will up his game as his own access to cash dwindles.
When the property was transferred to me there was no legal agreement to anything other than that. He transferred the equity and I believed that was the end of it. He is now saying "you promised to make sure I would be ok" which I definitely did not say, either in writing or verbally. No figure has been mentioned. If I owed him money I would pay it but I genuinely don't believe I owe him a penny.

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HellsBellsnBucketsofBlood · 02/11/2013 12:03

If he's got nothing in writing, then he'd have a hard time proving anything to a court. Especially as usually you'd pay over any cash owed when the equity was transferred. Also - your solicitor may still have notes detailing what the real agreement was at the time.

Ignore him. \go to your solicitor if he persists, if only to get a threatening letter sent to him telling him to back off and leave you alone.

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