disability,cafcass,contact, legal people pls help

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i posted at the beginning of the year, re ex neglect, emotional psychological abuse. not on birth cert. pouring ds milk away saying hes not going to let him get fat, leaving with a stranger and so on.
well ex made an application to court for contact which has never been denied only a request for it to be supervised.

no contact has happened since jan due to him cancelling being inconsistent, i said let the courts decide.

he asked me to sort it out of court i drew up a consent order suggesting 1hr a week supervised contact for 16 weeks progressing to 2hrs then 3hrs after a further 16 weeks with 1 of the hrs unsupervised providing things go well

this was a ploy by his solicitor, to find out what i was prepared to offer

we have had a first directions hearing, cafcass are doing a section 7 report which i welcome as i have safeguarding issues about ex
we have had our interviews ex is saying im unfit as i am epileptic, cafcass have asked ex leading questions and now wish for my other ex and a carer to be crb checked neither wish to be involved this has only been requested by cafcass as ex has received my statement with evidence attached for all my conserns he is charming her and clutching at straws.

i feel my disability is being used against me, im considering going into debt and getting a lawyer if i do what angle do i take this is going off piste it was about times days and supervised contact i now feel victimised.

i am a therapist and would never put my children at risk, ds is 17 months

YABU! 32 weeks and then what?

Why does 1 hour need to still be supervised if the other 2 don't?

What if this was the other way around and you were offered this contact? Would you be happy? I think not.

If your ex has been pouring DS's milk away and refusing to feed him, I am not surprised you suggest that contact should be supervised until some trust can be re-established.

Don't be upset about your disability being mentioned. The case has to be run from the child's point of view. The court does need to have it confirmed that your epilepsy does not have any implications for your ability to keep DS safe and care for him.

Is your other ex still in DS's life? If so, isn't it understandable that CAFCASS should want to check that he doesn't have a pnc record that could signal a risk? And the carer - sorry, I'm not sure whose carer that is - but is this another adult who is in and out of DS's home, for perfectly good reasons, but even so, a person who has access to DS who is a young child? if so - again, it's only right that his/her records are checked to make sure there are no risk issues.

yup i agree, my other ex has no record so not an issue and will probably agree to the check, my carer has not cared for me since march nor do i see much of him i have sent him the request but not heard anything back. i have a letter from my consultant stating im compliant to medication children not at risk.

after 32 weeks a review, not unreasonable if you knew full story