Bonjour.
My DH grandfather died sadly nearly two years ago. He had dementia and whilst he was still alive his DD my DH Aunt, took on power of attorny.
The estate would have been around 700,000 ish. One other aunt, and my Dh Dad, and about 8 GC ( we are the only ones with DC).
Whilst he was still alive I know the aunt gave my DH through his father, ie with no discussion to my DH some of his money to go on our mortgage.
Not a large amount maybe a few hundred quid.
They are a very closed family and DH is half estranged from them and is very passive with them, ie would not ask in a million years what the will actually was etc.
Of course we are living hand to mouth, not massivly struggling like some on here, but I have not been to the hair dressers for instance in several years, I do not buy make up, clothes for myself, the children are in charity, which I actually like as you can get amazing stuff these days, but I have to save up in advance for DD dance lessons and they are a stretch, our holiday this year is four nights to Wales.
We have some house repairs that need doing really but are way on the back burner, I would like DD to do some more things and like everyone else we could certainly do with some money.
How do we/I find out what was in the will when he can't under any circumstances ask his family.
I cannot even ask my DH about it. In passing and with other things, I have said in the past we could certainly benefit in many ways knowing there was something coming our way. As said he is very passive, and not pro active.