shared residence and its impacts

[asylumum]

Mums and dads do you think shared residence does impact on the well being of children especially those from high conflict parents. please share your observation and experience.

Depends what your definition of shared residence is. In the context of a court order its a label that implicitly says the child has two homes he/she can mover freely between. It is not defined in terms of contact. It also allows both parents to take the child out of the country for up to 28 days without having to ask the other parent permission to do so(of course dates do need agreeing). If you mean the above then I cant see where the impact will be.

However, are you referring to shared care of 50/50. This can work. But there are many instances when it doesn't and also when it does. 50/50 has usually come about by agreement between parents.

3xcookedchips am talking about shared residence where the child has 2 homes. Apparently this does not always work am afraid, it will work for parents who cooperate but wont work as well for parents in conflict. Wandered if any of the members here have experienced/observed anything which may suggest that the kids have been affected such as having difficulties in concentration, attention or task completion etc

Well, consider what a residence order with defined contact looks like compared with an SRO with the same schedule of contact. They will be virtually identical except for the word 'reside'. So I'm not sure how the mechanics of an SRO can be to blame for any problems. Its the conflict of the parents.

Can you explain why the SRO is part of the problem?

The courts have already ruled that high conflict is not a bar for making an SRO an sometimes use as a tool to try and lessen the conflict. Re A.

whether its a defined contact or shared residence, its been proved that parents who are in conflict with each other, shared residence is not really beneficial for their children. Of course at the moment that does not stop the courts from making shared residence orders. At the moment the courts are more interested in how much time each parent spends with the child. The child's wellbeing should come first. Parents who see their children suffering in the name of shared residence should voice out for change.

The SRO is not part of the problems as you say its the parents in conflict. My post specifically mentioned children in shared residence with parents who are in high conflict